Andrea Eriks, PhD
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She Wants
Because it’s time someone told her that the things she knows deep down aren't a burden to hide—but a wisdom to trust.
About She Wants
She Wants has been a long time in the making.
For years, I’ve sat with women—wives, partners, and seekers—who come to therapy carrying the same silent ache. They’re confused about sex and intimacy, unsure of what’s gone wrong in their marriage, and overwhelmed by a narrative that names them as the problem.
Day after day, I listened as women—capable, intelligent, intuitive women—shared the same story:
“He doesn’t see me.”
“I don’t know what’s wrong with me.”
But what I came to understand was this: she wasn’t broken.
She wasn’t a problem to be solved—she was a meaning to be made.
So much of what I do as a therapist is help couples unravel the false tropes and quiet misunderstandings that swirl around sexual dissonance. I help name the stories they’re telling themselves—stories born from silence, shame, and years of not knowing how to talk about what hurts. And too often, she’s carrying the weight alone. Because we don’t talk about sex. Because we don’t dare say hard things about marriage. Because vulnerability still feels too threatening.
So they come to people like me. Whispering secrets. Trying to find meaning. Hoping for clarity. Needing their husbands to understand. Wanting someone to name what has felt unnamable for years.
This book was born out of that sacred work. Out of listening. Out of learning. Out of knowing that women can’t keep doing this alone.
Why Center Christian Women?
I’m not a Christian therapist, and I don’t intend to be typecast as a Christian author. But I wrote this book with deep awareness of the particular bind so many Christian women face around sexuality, duty, and identity. I’ve spent years helping women of faith untangle the messages they’ve absorbed—from pulpits, purity culture, marriage books, and partners who never learned how to hold them emotionally.
As a person of faith myself, I’ve long served as a kind of bridge—able to understand the language of theology while also speaking the language of embodiment, autonomy, and therapeutic wisdom. I’ve read the academic and clinical texts that shaped me. But I also know that many women—especially women of faith—can’t quite access those books. They need a resource that speaks with both clarity and care, with truth and tenderness.
This book is that resource.
A slow, sacred invitation.
She Wants is not a quick fix. It’s not a sexy makeover or a 5-step plan. It’s a slow-down—a pause to notice, feel, and wonder. It’s a quiet but powerful invitation to see more clearly and love more deeply. Ideally, it’s a book for her and for him. But first, it’s for her.
I wrote it because I believe in her. I believe in you.
I invite you to read, reflect, and feel deeply seen.
I invite you to begin a relationship—not just with me as an author, but with yourself.
Because this book isn’t an end—it’s a beginning.
A beginning to believe bigger.
To see more clearly.
To do it differently.
To be known, cherished, and loved—more fully than ever before.
Because you can.
Because you’re worth it.
Because being and feeling loved deeply is worth it.
Come be with me.
Once you’ve read She Wants—and if it resonates with you—come be with me. Subscribe to my Newsletter. Read my work on Substack. Watch my Videos. Ask me questions of Instagram. Anticipate my Next Book (because it's already on the way).
Start a relationship with me. Join this space I’ve intentionally created to continue the conversation. I’m not just dropping a book into the world and walking away. I’m here. And I’ll be here—with more stories, more reflection, more resources to keep you growing.
I didn’t write She Wants thinking, “Maybe I’ll add something later.”
No. I knew from the start: this is only the beginning.
I already know what’s next—and it’s coming with even more depth, even more grounding in love, self-understanding, and relational transformation. I’m building a body of work designed to walk with you as you become who you’ve longed to be.
So stay with me.
Stay curious.
Stay open.
And I’ll help you find the love you’re searching for—starting with the love you hold for yourself.
But What Next?
She Wants is by no means a whimsical idea. This project has now been in the works for at least five years. What started as my doctoral project, became this deep burn inside of me I knew I had to bring to life. In its first stages, my mentors would say "Andrea, this is all great stuff, but who who is your audience, and where is the soul?" They were right. I didn't know who I was trying to talk to and I didn't know how to make such technical information deeply intimate and resonant. Finally a mentor suggested I consider a series. Thus, She Wants is merely the first book in what I intend to be a whole series on True and Healthy Intimacy. So if this book is for you, don't go far. Stay with me. I have been doing this work for ten years now and I'm not going anywhere. I want you to join my community and commit to being part of the greatest change of your life. Because healthy love is the thing you have been looking for and I'm here to teach you how to grow it.